Category Archives: A Vicar’s Musings

Announcement

The past week has been one of mixed emotions as I’ve announced my impending retirement at the end of this year  in many ways it seems months away, but I know only too well that once the summer holidays are over, the weeks will fly by. There are many conversations still to have and so […]

You’ve got this

  I wrote this specifically for a young woman who is really struggling this week, but I’ve put it here because I believe it sentiments can be applied to so many of us at the moment, including myself. You’ve got this   It may not feel that way today, But I know you’ve got this. […]

‘Secrets’

This week I am publishing one of the most difficult letters I have ever chosen to write. Please note that I used the word ‘chosen’. Much of the subject on my ‘Secrets’ page is about things I have been coerced or even forced into. To write this letter last year was my choice. It was […]

‘Come to me…’

Tuesday saw us return from a wonderful week long break in Devon. It was everything we hoped it would be. It was a week of total switch off, the first for me in eight months, and I hadn’t realised just how much it was needed. Of course, any busy person returning from a break will […]

Doing things differently

I am currently sitting in the quiet of my son’s home in Devon. It is a lovely barn conversion in a coastal hamlet, only metres from the hotel he manages. It is secluded and it is silent, other than bird song, and I am enjoying the spectacular views and a much needed retreat from parish […]

Being honest with yourself is the start…

  It has been a challenging week for me, which is why my post is later than usual. I have struggled and I feel that I need to reiterate that have not written and shared my story (Secrets behind the collar) for any shock value, neither have I shared it to evoke any particular reaction. […]

Piecing the jigsaw and the prospect of a challenging visit

I find that I am forever finding and placing new pieces in the metaphorical jigsaw of my life, and in particular in the traumas I experienced. This week, as I reflected upon conducting the funeral of one of my parents’ oldest friends last Friday, more pieces fell into place. As I listened to her son […]

A time to be silent and a time to speak

  This week has seen me conduct two funerals on two consecutive mornings. At each of these services, the chosen Biblical reading was from the Old Testament Book of Ecclesiastes. The third chapter is familiar to so many people as it speak of there being a time for everything. Older readers will also remember the […]

Beginning difficult conversations

The idea of beginning difficult conversations is being promoted daily by the BBC. The phase can be seen regularly between programmes and follows documentaries where celebrities such as Freddie Flintoff and Nadiya Hussain, who both feature in the advert, have opened up frankly and honestly about their own mental health struggles. For years, mental health […]